Pregnant from a One Night Stand – Where to Go from Here?
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- A pregnancy after a one-night stand (ONS) often comes as a complete shock, but it can happen even when using contraceptives.
- Even if you became pregnant because of casual sex, you are entitled to the same rights as any other expectant mother.
- Take time to consider your best course of action while seeking care and support from others.
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Returning from the Magic of the Moment to Stark Reality
You may have had a bit too much to drink at a party or during a business trip. Your mutual attraction was strong, and all else was forgotten in the heat of the moment.
It has been a while since that night, but something from that adventure—with no strings attached—refuses to stay in the past. Perhaps your period is late, or you just took a pregnancy test that came back positive.
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Understandably, this can be a complete shock. You might feel panicked and powerless, with many questions running through your mind: How could this happen? What should I do next? Who can I turn to? Should I tell him?
How Could This Happen? #onenightstand pregnant
You are not alone in this dilemma. Pregnancy after casual sex, such as a one-night stand or a Tinder date, is not uncommon. Of course, it is possible that one thing led to another, and contraception was the last thing on your mind. But this is not the norm.
Still, no form of contraception is foolproof. Pregnancy, despite contraceptives, is quite common.
There is no need to blame yourself or accept blame from others. Pregnancies can happen just as easily after a casual hookup as within a relationship, even if you never expected to get pregnant after a one-night stand.
Should I Tell the Father of My Baby?
Of course, this pregnancy also concerns someone other than yourself: The baby's father. You may be wondering if you should tell him. This can be a tricky situation, especially if it was supposed to be a one-time thing.
Unless it was a Tinder-style arrangement, your one-night stand was probably not planned. Now, you may be facing some hurdles: You may only know his first name, and you may not have exchanged any contact information. Finding him might be difficult. Even if you know him better, you might be unsure whether to tell him about the repercussions of your night together.
- You might feel embarrassed or resentful, especially if you are with someone else and this was just a slip-up. Read more by going to our article Pregnant by Another Man
- You may fear his aggravation or coercive measures, e.g., if he is in another relationship or is making insinuations that the baby is not his. For advice and tips, go to He Doesn't Want the Baby
You have the right to protect yourself, regardless of the situation. For now, it may be wise to keep the pregnancy to yourself until you are sure what you want. Either way, deciding how to handle the pregnancy is entirely up to you.
Many men want to know if they have fathered a child–after all, it is their baby, too. Our counseling experience has proven that co-parenting is possible outside of a relationship. This may be something to consider in your situation.
Should you start out raising your child on your own, know that there is plenty of support available:
Does the Dad Have Rights and Obligations?
Even though the pregnancy was unintended, the father usually has certain obligations, such as paying child support.
From a legal standpoint, there is no difference between a baby conceived within a steady relationship or casual sex. Lawmakers prioritize the child’s best interest–regardless of the parents’ marital status.
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ℹ️ Note: If you purposely misled him to believe you were using contraception, paternal laws remain unaffected. Whether he agreed to the pregnancy or not, his responsibility to the child remains the same.
If you do not feel you have the “right” to carry his baby, know that expecting a baby is a game-changer. You have the legal right to reassess this altered situation, considering every option.
What Matters Most
You may feel very alone in this pregnancy. Your first step may be to identify someone you can confide in: someone who understands and listens without judgment or suggesting a quick fix.
Can you think of someone willing to walk this path alongside you? A good friend? Your sister? A kind aunt who is not easily flustered?... Someone who knows you well and respects your values?
Perhaps you do not want to share this with anyone – because you are afraid of being met with opposition or judgment. Neither would be very helpful to you in this situation. Understandably, you want to guard yourself against negative reactions. This is where we come in.
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