Frequently Asked Questions: My Relationship After Childbirth

How Has Our Relationship as a Couple Changed After Having a Baby? A Personal Experience from a Mom of Two

With the birth of our first son, our lives completely changed. What I hadn't expected: these changes didn't bother me at all – because being with my child is simply so beautiful, more than I ever could have imagined. From deep love, many priorities and everyday routines are naturally restructured. Things that were once very important to me have quietly taken a backseat, without me feeling wistful about it.
Becoming parents was incredibly beautiful and enriching for our relationship – and also very challenging. On the one hand, I learned to love and appreciate my husband in new ways and discovered many new sides of him. Seeing how loving he is as a father deeply moved me, made me proud, and increased my appreciation for him even more.
At the same time, it has been and continues to be a struggle for us, in stressful situations – which with children, there are definitely more of – to treat each other with love, to turn to one another, and to consciously make time for ourselves as a couple.
A fulfilled and happy relationship is always work. It requires discipline and attention to respond calmly and to assume the best intentions of your partner, even when you don't understand their reaction or disagree with their approach to parenting. And yet, the moments where I’m simply grateful for all that he does for me and our family outweigh everything else. The sense of connection as parents is far more fulfilling than any effort. Our life has become happier through our children: there are more moments of laughter, joy, and love.
Our love has become deeper, more beautiful, and more mature through our children than it was before. One could say that being parents was and still is the greatest challenge and the greatest gift for us! Nothing has brought us closer together. And nothing has taught us more about trusting each other and being grateful for one another.

*Maria, mother of two young sons

Here you can find more personal accounts and tips on how to prepare for the time with your baby:
➡️ Being a mother – experiences and tips for the new life situation
➡️ The first time being a father – experiences & tips

Is things not going well? 😢 Feeling disconnected during pregnancy/after childbirth, doubts about the relationship, or even thoughts of separation? Here you can read more about it:

➡️ Separation during pregnancy
➡️ Pregnant and (possibly) a single parent